All it would take is one little slip...
"I hope you rot in hell" -No one actually came out and said this.
His point? People were being awful, ugly, and mean to a woman who had made a big mistake.
My point? That mistake was freaking scary.
Only, SHE isn't scary. Bitter? Harassing? Judgemental? Yes. But then, so are the dozens (hundreds?) Of women who attacked her personally, publicly and in private messages.
But she isn't scary.
Her mistake is. It is terrifying that any stranger can take a picture of your child while you aren't looking, and that isn't against the law. That anybody can post a picture of your child to social media, and there is no protection.
(Oh, good. A new thing to be scared about. You're welcome.)
But Mindy isn't a predator. Oh, I said she was, and I meant it. But not in a creepy, dangerous way.
You get what I mean?
She provided a platform for much bigger issue. It isn't even about her anymore.
Only, nobody told the masses.
And nobody told her.
(I hope somebody tells her)
"You don't deserve to breathe" -this one was implied.
I've been thinking about this a lot. Those happy pills- they could be depression meds. And we all have bad days, and make stupid choices. And for somebody with depression, a bad day with bad choices that ends with THE INTERNET HATING YOU could lead to some dark places.
We do not need another example of depression, bullying, and suicide.
But we could use a good comeback story.
Hate what she did. Hate it hard. But don't hate her.
"You disgust me. Everything about you disgusts me." -so many people, in spirit and tone.
She is a wife. She is a daughter. She is a friend. She is a step mother.
She is a person.
And she has worth. Just like you do, even in your worst days.
Mindy made it clear that she felt stuck in this job becuase better ones were taken by college grads. But you know what? She worked hard for this position, and she lost it in a day.
A day, possibly without her psych meds.
This wasn't a little part time job. It was her career.
"I hope you never get another job again. Never in your whole life." -I'm paraphrasing
I'm not excusing what she did. I obviously have very strong opinions on it, and a theory on why it struck a chord with so many people (totally interesting, you should all go read it).
And I believe in the power of protest, and social media, and groups of people coming together and saying "that is not ok" in a voice that makes a difference.
This was worth standing up for.
But isn't wasn't worth losing our humanity.
"You are a terrible human being who doesn't deserve happiness" -quite a few individuals
She made a mistake. A big one. She violated strict policy, and from the moment she posted that photo her job was over.
She is down, guys. Let's stop kicking.
"Mindy is awful and doesn't deserve to be a step mom" -dozens of people
Let's not add more thoughts of pain and worthlessness to somebody who is already suffering from depression.
"Mindy wasn't loved as a child" -lots of folks
Be kind. She is fighting a hard battle.
And we all have bad days.
We all do stupid things.
Let's not push her one step closer to the cliff.
Please note that most people were firm, but not cruel. And some got a bit caught up and carried away. And then some people dove in and splashed viciously.
It's those people I am paraphrasing in the "quotations." Instead of calling out individuals, I thought if try to capture the essence of their messages.