Let me introduce you to The Empress.
She is the writer behind Good Day, Regular People.
And she is fantastic.
We were actually supposed swap blogs last week, but the Empress is busy, and I am lazy, and so it didn't happen until today. Which? Is perfectly ok with me.
My guest post is titled "Top ten ways to find your voice, and keep your blogging passion" (you know you want to go read it).
And I am nicknaming this post by The Empress: "I am not The Pioneer Woman. And that's ok." (In fact, that's what I'm going to put in the Title line. Score.)
She has some very wise words that we all need to read. So, without further ado, I present:
Maybe I'm Unique In This, But I Highly Doubt It
Helena and I have decided to take on "What To Blog" and "How To Blog" as our guest post swaps through the PugsTribe Humor Bloggers via SITS e-harmony date match. And, may I say, so far so good, I'm definitely not losing this cute little chicky's number.
Let's talk about all things Comparing here.
Comparing ourselves to other bloggers, other blogs, other posts.
It's natural, we can't help it, and nothing will kill and shoot your blogging mojo down faster than looking at someone else's blog and saying, "I've got nothin'. I'm just pushing the chair away, turning off the computer, and it was nice while it lasted, but I got nothin'."
The thing is, we are all different. We bring something new and unique to someone's world, and those we strike a chord with, will return. The readers that like us, will come back. We can't be all things to everyone. I mean, yes, some can, like The Pioneer Woman...who, holy hell, just go look over there: what CAN'T she show you is more like it.
But, for the rest of the human blogging race, we can only offer who we are, and our own special experiences and style.
We can always improve, learn new things, take on a technical bit of new knowledge, improve stick figurin', and photography know how. All those things are ways we can get better, or offer more. But, for the most part, we can only give what we know.
What I've learned, is that I have to have faith. I have to have faith that there is something in my writing and my blog, that feeds someone out there what they like.
If I go to a blog, and see all sorts of stupendousness there, and then I head back home with my head hanging, well, I can barely lift my shoulders off my knees high enough to hit the keys on the keyboard.
What I have learned to make myself do is:
1. Straighten up that spine.
2. Take a deep, deep breath.
3. Put on a smile, literally.
4. Put the fingers on the keys.
5. Tell myself I am who I am. And only I can do that best. Only me.
6. Just do it. Type away. Smile. Check for typos. Then Post.
If you love to blog, and love to connect and find people who get you, then keep doing it. Don't look at what someone else can do that you can't. Don't tell yourself that someone is so much better than you, they know more than you, their blog is so much cooler than yours.
Your love for what you do, and for who stops to check on you daily, will cross over into those fingertips that tap the keys, and put words out there that will speak to someone.
In other words, only listen to what the good voices in your head tell you to do. The bad guys, pfffffffffft....shove them out the door.
Thank you, Empress. I have struggled with this a lot over the past year, and I wish we had met each other sooner.
So what do you think guys? Did anything stand out to you?