I didn't post it then. And I've been thinking about it ever since. I know she will never read this- we have drifted apart over the past year, when we both moved away, and I stopped pretending.
Mostly when I stopped pretending.
It needs to be said.
I've never seen it happen. She never presses charges, and most of the time she "loves him so much" and "he is her other half."
But every few months, she leaves him. She stays with her friends, her family. Sometimes with me. There, she is open and honest about how bad it gets. "He punched me in the face." "He threw me through a wall." "He controls everything I do. It's like I'm not a person anymore. I'm just a puppet, or a doll." "I have to wear long sleeves/scarves/long pants/sunglasses to hide all the bruises."
She vows that it's over, that she is not going back. She talks about how she is worth more than this, and you start thinking that things are going to change.
But then she misses him. And he sends her flowers. He promises that he loves her, and he will never hurt her again.
A few days later she "loves him so much" and "he is her other half."
If you try to talk to her about it then, she cuts you out of her life. Because she is happy again, and can't you see that they are in love?
I don't think it's ever going to change.
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